A very good illustration of the innate appreciation of Thanksgiving or thankfulness we have within us placed they are by God. Hope you enjoy this and have a wonderful Thanksgiving celebration. David
Three Good on the other ThingsContributor: Illustration Exchange
A masters level "positive psychology" student had been studying the cultivation of thankfulness and gratitude in young children, specifically, her 7 year old son, Jonah. To that end, she began a nightly exercise which she called "Three Blessings" (aptly renamed by young Jonah as "Three Good Things").
Jonah enthusiastically embraced the exercise to the point that it quickly became a beloved bedtime ritual. After some time, mom decided to interview Jonah just to see what he was really getting out of their time contemplating their Three Good Things.
Below are excerpts of Jonah's answers to the questions she posed (along with her "adult translations" of his intended meaning). The implications of what she learned from Jonah's answers are hardly just for kids:
Mom: “What do you think of our bed-time tradition of talking about three good things?”
Jonah: “Umm, I like it. It’s like, you know…good to share good stuff…Why? Don’t you like it?” (Clearly I responded “yes.”) ...
Mom: “Why do you think it feels good to talk about our good things?”
Jonah: “Maybe because you might have something that wasn’t fun so if you talk about the good things, well, the bad things you won’t think about any more.”
Adult translation: Focusing on the positive can help detract from the power of the negative.
Mom: “How do you choose your good things?”
Jonah: “The weird thing is, you might have not did a good thing or had fun, so, you can share something that you think someone else had fun with…because that would be good to have something good happen to someone you love, too.”
Adult translation: Our happiness can be enhanced with the increased happiness of those around us.
Mom: “Is it always easy to think of three good things?”
Jonah: “You might get stressed because you might not be able to get one out. Oh, but if it was Saturday, or Sunday, your parents could help you share one ... Or, if you’re somebody that doesn’t have any three good things, and your parents can’t help you think of one, you can share it with your friends who might think of something and you could brainstorm.”
Adult translation: Sometimes its important to have people around who remind us of the good things we have.
Mom: “Do you think it would be good to teach other people how to do three good things?”
Jonah: “I think it would, but you shouldn’t just, like, come in and stuff…You’d have to let them pick whether it was something they’d want to do. They might want to do other things or have another feeling.”
Adult translation: “You can’t force other people to be grateful for what they have, but, you can offer opportunities to share.”
Mom: “Do you think it would be just as good to talk about more than three things? Why do we pick three?”
Jonah: “There might be like a thousand or a million things you liked that you did today, but you’ll only choose three, and those will be your best. I think it is the just right amount because you don’t have to add or keep track too much because it’s only three ... If there were more, then ... you’d have to keep it all straight in your head so three is good, actually.
Adult translation: Four would be one too many. Sometimes less is more ...
Application:
We could all benefit from Jonah's wisdom ...
· It's good to share good stuff: "It is a good thing to give thanks unto the LORD" (Psalm 92:1)."
· Focusing on the positive can help detract from the power of the negative: "Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things" (Philippians 4:8).
· Our happiness can be enhanced with the increased happiness of those around us: "Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor" (Romans 12:10).
· Sometimes it's important to have people around who remind us of the good things we have: "Anxiety in a man's heart weighs him down, but a good word makes him glad" (Proverbs 12:25).
· You can’t force other people to be grateful for what they have, but, you can offer opportunities to share: "And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near" (Hebrews 10:24-25).
· Sometimes less is more [so stay focused and stay in the moment]: "This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it" (Psalm 118:24).